At the foundation of Feng Shui is the belief that everything in our home is alive and talking to us. This may seem like a stretch to many, but stop and think about it; when the first thing you encounter when you enter your home is the unrelenting pile of clutter, how does it make you feel? My sense is – not so great about yourself. And who needs that?( See my article the Anatomy of Clutter)
Your home holds information about belief systems that may or may not be serving you. You can train yourself to see them by looking at exactly what is there. By acting on this information, you gain valuable tools for transformation and personal growth.
My client Elinore’s living room walls were filled with large, expensive oil paintings of her husband’s dead relatives. Sort of like the ones you might find in a castle with everyone looking very severe and disapproving. She hated them but did not have the nerve to tell her husband. He had inherited them and as the only son of a wealthy family, wanted to have the up, but they had a very small home. She had no room to put any of the pictures that she loved. Her space had an important message for her if she was willing to see it.
In Elinore’s case it revealed that she didn’t value herself enough to have that “courageous conversation” with her husband about not feeling comfortable in her own space. She didn’t feel worthy of asking him for this important thing. She could have presented him with options; he could put them in his own office or even give them to other relatives. Because she could not speak up about her own needs, she was consigning herself to live with the ‘eyes of the disapproving relatives’ eternally following her around the house.